自爱：现在就呵护自己的9种方式Self-Love: 9 Ways to Be Kind to Yourself Today

Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind.”----Henry James人类生活中有三件事情很重要：第一是善良；第二是善良；第三还是善良。”——亨利•詹姆斯

Being kind to yourself in everyday life is one of the best things you can do for yourself. Life will become lighter and your relationships will most likely improve. You will feel happier overall. And your self-esteem and your sense of deserving good things in life will go up.
每天呵护自己是为自己所做的最好的事情之一。生活将变得轻松，你的各种人际关系很可能也得到改善。总体上，你会感觉更快乐了。而且，你的自尊会提高，日益感到自己值得享受生命中美好事物。
But it also one thing that is often neglected or something some may feel guilty about doing.
但这事经常被忽略，或者有些人会对此有罪恶感。
To make positive change with that simply start a new habit today. One of kindness towards yourself. You can find 9 such habits of self-kindness below.
就此要积极改变，从今天开始培养新习惯。诸多善良中的一项是呵护自己。以下列出了9项呵护自己的方式，你可以看看。
Don’t try everything today. Choose one thing. And just go with it for today. If it felt good and helped you out then just continue doing it tomorrow.
不要想着今天一下子就全部做到。选一样。然后今天就付诸行动。如果感觉良好，对自己有帮助，那么明天继续。
1. Invest in yourself. Spend 30-60 minutes in the morning or evening with reading, listening to or watching material that uplifts you, that helps you to understand yourself and the world or that helps you to live a better life. Then, if possible, take one small action on what you have learned.
1、投资自己。每天上午或晚上，花上半小时到一个小时阅读，聆听或观看能提升你的东西，这样可以帮助你了解自己和世界，或者帮助改善生活。还有，如果可以的话，将学到的东西小小地付诸实践。
2. Find the truth and exception when an inner critic or outer critic attacks. Your own inner critic may not always say nice things about you to you. People around you may attack you or try to bring you down to serve one of their own needs. If you or someone else does this, ask yourself: what is the exception to this though?
2、如果面临内心或他人批评时，区分真相和攻击。内心的评判并非一直对自己说好话。周围的人可能攻击你，或者为了他们自己的目的，想踩低你。如果你或者别人这么做时，问问自己：这样的斥责原因何在？
This is very effective to change your train of thoughts, to find the truth and to not get down on yourself.
这对改变思路非常有效，找出真相，不要贬抑自己。
For example, if you or someone says that you are not doing a good job in school then you can ask the question and find answers that tell you that isn’t really true. If you question the attack and look for the exception you may for instance see that you are actually doing a good job in most of your courses, but may be a bit unfocused and lazy in math and physics.
That is a more nuanced truth that helps you rather than just brings you down.
比如，如果自己或者别人说你功课不好，那么可以带着这个疑问，找出答案，告诉自己这样的说法不是真的。如果对斥责怀疑，并且仔细查看，你会发觉自己大多数功课真的不错，但可能在数学和物理上有些心不在焉，还有点懒散。
3. Set a low bar for happiness. Wake up in the morning. Relax for a minute. Tell yourself: “Today I will set a low bar for happiness”.
3、降低幸福的门槛。早晨醒来。放松一分钟。告诉自己：“今天，我要降低幸福的门槛。”
I use this one often and it is such a simple thing that makes a big difference to my day. As I tell myself this and try to keep it in mind during the day I appreciate things more. The food, my work, the weather, the people and the small events of the day becomes not everyday stuff but something I feel happy to have.
我经常用这个办法，而且这个简单的办法会极大改观我的日子。当对自己这么说，并且一天里，时刻提醒自己，那么我会更加感恩。食物、工作、天气、人们，还有各类琐事，都不再寻常，而是我充满幸福地拥有的东西。
The small things or what may be something one takes for granted becomes something I now often pause for a moment or two to take in and appreciate.
那些细琐的事情，或者人们可能想当然的事情，现在成了我经常会驻足欣赏的事情了。
This approach to the day